[Woodyballer29]

SWOballer, on 08 December 2012 - 10:46 PM, said:

Guys like that who seem to be nice to everyone are typically only nice to the douche bags because it's in their nature. As long as there is one person that wants you along for the journey then I say fuck the rest of them. Go on the trip and be the one that is the highlight with the new people you meet and show them why you should be part of the pack so to speak.

Yeah but heh I don't think I was really invited lol. And for something like that especially if they are not organizing it, then I don't want to invite myself.

[SWOballer]

Meh, sometimes you just have to invite yourself if you really want to be part of the crowd. I think you will find in time that there is actually very few "douche's" in your crowd but likely just one or two that influence everyone else and in the end they will be the one's with no friends.

[Woodyballer29]

Yeah for sure, I agree with you. When they do stuff most of the time it's very open I just don't get the invite and I don't want to impose. But for that trip, I am in no way going to invite myself.

[WeAre138]

Dont take this the wrong way, but is it possible youre the problem? Every chance in the world this is a groud of asses. Yet you still need to make sure youre not the overbearing annoying guy they actually have a right to avoid.

Like in your post about playing COD. Maybe they enjoy just playing casually, and you dont realize that all your blabbing about maps and such gets old after a while. Just saying dont always assume that everyone else is an ass. Sometimes its better to look at your own actions first.

This post has been edited by WeAre138: 09 December 2012 - 03:36 PM

[Woodyballer29]

WeAre138, on 09 December 2012 - 03:32 PM, said:

Dont take this the wrong way, but is it possible youre the problem? Every chance in the world this is a groud of asses. Yet you still need to make sure youre not the overbearing annoying guy they actually have a right to avoid.

Like in your post about playing COD. Maybe they enjoy just playing casually, and you dont realize that all your blabbing about maps and such gets old after a while. Just saying dont always assume that everyone else is an ass. Sometimes its better to look at your own actions first.

I have looked at my own actions, I have changed them so that I try to be as nice as I can. I wasn't really babbling about maps at all, they do like to play casually and so do I, but theirs is a different kind of casual gaming. I think the main problem is that I am younger than them so they count me as inferior, but only by a few years. For example in some conversations I actually know a lot about the topic and they are all talking, when I get a chance to talk they don't listen to me or they say I'm wrong and interrupt me. When they are the ones who I know for a fact are wrong.

Don't worry I didn't take it the wrong way

This post has been edited by Woodyballer29: 09 December 2012 - 04:18 PM

[WeAre138]

Sounds like its time for new friends good sir. Its tough but itll be worth it in the long run.

[Woodyballer29]

WeAre138, on 09 December 2012 - 11:57 PM, said:

Sounds like its time for new friends good sir. Its tough but itll be worth it in the long run.

Quite possibly, I'm thinking that they are just waiting until I turn 16 or something so they think I'm more mature, but idk just a hunch I have.

This post has been edited by Woodyballer29: 10 December 2012 - 08:18 AM

[PREDATOR 47]

Woodyballer29, on 10 December 2012 - 08:18 AM, said:

WeAre138, on 09 December 2012 - 11:57 PM, said:

Sounds like its time for new friends good sir. Its tough but itll be worth it in the long run.

Quite possibly, I'm thinking that they are just waiting until I turn 16 or something so they think I'm more mature, but idk just a hunch I have.

If thats the case then wait it out for a little bit. But be prepared to move on, it will be better in the long run, I had to do the same thing.

[Woodyballer29]

PREDATOR 47, on 10 December 2012 - 10:29 AM, said:

Woodyballer29, on 10 December 2012 - 08:18 AM, said:

WeAre138, on 09 December 2012 - 11:57 PM, said:

Sounds like its time for new friends good sir. Its tough but itll be worth it in the long run.

Quite possibly, I'm thinking that they are just waiting until I turn 16 or something so they think I'm more mature, but idk just a hunch I have.

If thats the case then wait it out for a little bit. But be prepared to move on, it will be better in the long run, I had to do the same thing.

Yeah I think that's what I will have to eventually do. I'll stick with it for now, then see if anything changes by the time I am able to comfortably move somewhere else.

[sonicx059]

Woodyballer29, on 10 December 2012 - 08:18 AM, said:

WeAre138, on 09 December 2012 - 11:57 PM, said:

Sounds like its time for new friends good sir. Its tough but itll be worth it in the long run.

Quite possibly, I'm thinking that they are just waiting until I turn 16 or something so they think I'm more mature, but idk just a hunch I have.

Wait, you are not 16?

I have been in your boat before my good sir,and I believe "Time heals all wounds."

Although as for the present, try to do the thing that scares you the most or that which you would never do. Of course as long as it is within the law and your moral standings.

From experience I know that by breaking out of your shell you may find that there is more to be had and to be learned. Honestly I still struggle with this daily myself but after so asking myself so many times "Why not" or "What would have happened"? I learned to take the leap of faith and see where it takes me. Always have a backup plan in case it all goes to hell.

[Woodyballer29]

sonicx059, on 10 December 2012 - 01:27 PM, said:

Woodyballer29, on 10 December 2012 - 08:18 AM, said:

WeAre138, on 09 December 2012 - 11:57 PM, said:

Sounds like its time for new friends good sir. Its tough but itll be worth it in the long run.

Quite possibly, I'm thinking that they are just waiting until I turn 16 or something so they think I'm more mature, but idk just a hunch I have.

Wait, you are not 16?

I have been in your boat before my good sir,and I believe "Time heals all wounds."

Although as for the present, try to do the thing that scares you the most or that which you would never do. Of course as long as it is within the law and your moral standings.

From experience I know that by breaking out of your shell you may find that there is more to be had and to be learned. Honestly I still struggle with this daily myself but after so asking myself so many times "Why not" or "What would have happened"? I learned to take the leap of faith and see where it takes me. Always have a backup plan in case it all goes to hell.

Thanks, ironically one of my youth leaders kind of shared on this topic on Friday!

[OEFVeteran]

i never ran with a pack when i was in middle school or high school... and still dont to this day... never had any really close friends growing up.. i did the youth group thing at my chruch, but never really fit in... i spent most of my time after school doing homework, reading books, going mountain biking... i never socialized much with the people i did school sports with... it took a while to realize this, but once i accepted it i was able to be happy with myself... i am just a loaner... i can make friends fine, i have a couple close friends now that i've met though paintball, but at the end of the day, i am happy just being my own best friend...

if you can get to this place with yourself, then you will have a much easier time getting there with others... before other people can really accept you as a friend, you need to be able to accept yourself... if they view you as the awkward kid who is uncomfortable in his own skin, they wont accept you into their group... they may be nice, but the "pack" senses your insecurities, and they feed off it... its just a pack animal dynamic, and yes, humans are pack animals, for the most part...

for example, we tease you nthe chat room about the whole "just the tip" thing, because its funny and it gets you riled p a bit... but its all harmless teasing... but the reaction you give in the chat room may be the reason this group doesnt want to hang out with you all the time... i am not trying to be harsh, hell, i was that socially awkward kid up until college... i was really in your face about my passions, talked all the time about mountain biking.. i even annoyed thehell out of my family i talked about it so much.... but, once i grew into my skin, toughened up a bit... and acepted myself for who i was, i became much less socially awkward... and to be honest, i dont really care what other people think of me, either you like me or you dont, either you want me to be around, or you dont... doesnt matter to me... for instance, the gus i work with at the mountain... i know i annoy the shit out of them talking about my time in the stan... but fuck them, some one asksme about the war, i'll tell them... if you go through your whole life worrying about what others say and think, and how they feel about you, or weather or not they want to be friends, you will never develop any real relationships with people...

so, my advice? put on your big boy pants, thicken your skin up, and if you really want to be apart of this group, give them a reason to want you in the group... not trying to sound harsh, but thats how groups like this work, you have to give them a reason to want you around... by being yourself... and if this group ends up not wanting you around, find another... its not as hard as you think...

[Woodyballer29]

OEFVeteran, on 10 December 2012 - 03:44 PM, said:

i never ran with a pack when i was in middle school or high school... and still dont to this day... never had any really close friends growing up.. i did the youth group thing at my chruch, but never really fit in... i spent most of my time after school doing homework, reading books, going mountain biking... i never socialized much with the people i did school sports with... it took a while to realize this, but once i accepted it i was able to be happy with myself... i am just a loaner... i can make friends fine, i have a couple close friends now that i've met though paintball, but at the end of the day, i am happy just being my own best friend...

if you can get to this place with yourself, then you will have a much easier time getting there with others... before other people can really accept you as a friend, you need to be able to accept yourself... if they view you as the awkward kid who is uncomfortable in his own skin, they wont accept you into their group... they may be nice, but the "pack" senses your insecurities, and they feed off it... its just a pack animal dynamic, and yes, humans are pack animals, for the most part...


for example, we tease you nthe chat room about the whole "just the tip" thing, because its funny and it gets you riled p a bit... but its all harmless teasing... but the reaction you give in the chat room may be the reason this group doesnt want to hang out with you all the time... i am not trying to be harsh, hell, i was that socially awkward kid up until college... i was really in your face about my passions, talked all the time about mountain biking.. i even annoyed thehell out of my family i talked about it so much.... but, once i grew into my skin, toughened up a bit... and acepted myself for who i was, i became much less socially awkward... and to be honest, i dont really care what other people think of me, either you like me or you dont, either you want me to be around, or you dont... doesnt matter to me... for instance, the gus i work with at the mountain... i know i annoy the shit out of them talking about my time in the stan... but fuck them, some one asksme about the war, i'll tell them... if you go through your whole life worrying about what others say and think, and how they feel about you, or weather or not they want to be friends, you will never develop any real relationships with people...

so, my advice? put on your big boy pants, thicken your skin up, and if you really want to be apart of this group, give them a reason to want you in the group... not trying to sound harsh, but thats how groups like this work, you have to give them a reason to want you around... by being yourself... and if this group ends up not wanting you around, find another... its not as hard as you think...

Hmmm interesting. The tip thing in the chat though, I know you guys are teasing me, I get teased alot so yeah, I'm used to it lol.

I don't know how to explain this so here it goes. I have my big boy pants on, I can honestly say that I have matured way more than I have in the past 2 years than I have in my entire life. I know that they accept me. I can do my own thing but I enjoy it more when I am with friends. I seem to make friends fine.

This post has been edited by Woodyballer29: 10 December 2012 - 06:18 PM

[reflexowner]

LOL THE VIDEO!

[Jarz]

You'll find guys better suited for being friends. I mean, I guess something happened when I got to high school, but I've just taken life more seriously. I'm no the kind of guy that wants to go drink and break into houses to party. I love being social, but I don't feel the need to glorify sex and alcohol in high school to do so. I've found friends that accept me for who I am, and they're awesome to be around. My old friends say I act like an old man, because I argue with a cool head, speak with a mature tone and vocabulary, and just take life more serious. I guess I try to carry myself with class, and people don't like that.

Be yourself; you'll find people who like you for who you are.

[pbcallahan40]

does anybody else realize that that is not the middle finger?

[Woodyballer29]

pbcallahan40, on 31 December 2012 - 10:37 PM, said:

does anybody else realize that that is not the middle finger?

Yes I know...