Trying to get Girlfriend into paintball So this is what im thinking...
Posted 27 December 2012 - 10:29 AM
I'm going to buy her a gun, undecided on which one so far but im leaning towards a mini mainly because she's about 5'2, no macro line and its definitely a good stater marker that i can get cheap.... I'll need another hopper for her and im really contemplating a black spire...ive already got a spare 45/45 she can have and a great spare mask so im good there... But to make it girly and fit her taste im thinking about getting a freak barrel with a pink back and maybe some new grips just to show i really put some thought into it
If this backfires and she hates it my backup will be to keep the spire (because i want one anyway) re-sell the mini because i'll be leaning towards a black gun anyway, and swap the barrel back for a black and just stick it on my gun lol (so it wouldnt be a huge loss)
U guys have any advice on ANYTHING? Gun/hopper choice, etc.? Ways to go about it? I know she will love paintball, she just needs to get out and try it, and i feel like having her own setup will REALLY help
Posted 27 December 2012 - 10:55 AM
don't force her, imagine if she was a recreational accordion player, and bought you an accordion to play, and wanted to bring you to an accordion club to meet other accordion players
It's the same thing
Yes paintball is fun for YOU, but it's not fun for everyone, which is why it's such a small sport. 99% of the reason why she'll come out and try to play, is because you're nagging her to do it. 1% is actual curiosity
Invite her, don't get pissed if she doesn't want to play. If she thinks it's a waste of time and a waste of money, she's the one who is a waste of time. Any girl/woman who does not respect your hobbies and interest, does not respect you as a person. I'm not trying to give you relationship advice, but ANY girl I've dated that started with that "Why do you ______________________ so much, it's such a waste of time and money" ended up being a complete pain in the ass, and I was pretty happy to toss that chick to the curb and let some other guy deal with that shit.
Jenn quickly learned, that anything that she questioned or interrogated me on, was done 10x more to make a point.
"Why did you buy that motorcycle?" was answered with "I dunno... now I'm wondering why I'm going to spend $3,000 on it this weekend for worthless upgrades"
"Why did you get another RC car, what's wrong with the one you have?" was answered with "Not sure, I was going to just drive it in the backyard for fun, but now I'm realizing that I want to race now, so I'll need 3 more along with hundreds of dollars in upgrades and I'll be at the track every weekend, and maybe twice a week for practice"
"Why did you buy another computer?" was answered with "Well my old one wasn't running the latest videos game too well... but now I'm realizing that I should have gotten the $4,000 computer, instead of the $1,500 one, so I'll be returning this one for another one three times the price"
Don't EVER put up with that shit from women, and women shouldn't put up with that shit from men either. Women blow cash faster and harder than you can ever realize, they'll go to the store for milk, and come home with a pair of Christian Louboutan shoes just because they were "on sale" for 10% off. When you make your own money, you can spend it however you wish.
The next time she gives you a hard time, just say something to the effect of "I don't question your passions and hobbies, don't question mine. I'm sure there are millions of guys out there who would love to have a girlfriend interrogate them and grill them on the shit they buy with their own hard earned money, but I'm not one of them."
I can promise you, if you quit paintball and started saving all of your money and putting it into a savings account, she's be telling you - "Why do you put so much money into the bank? Why don't you spend it on things... or on me
Posted 27 December 2012 - 11:40 AM
Posted 27 December 2012 - 12:08 PM
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Posted 27 December 2012 - 12:23 PM
Be a man, give her your gear i.e. pants, marker, and most importantly MASK if she does go with you.
Posted 27 December 2012 - 12:28 PM
I've gotten my girlfriend to play with me before, and she had fun the one time she went, but that was it, ONE time. Even though she doesn't have a desire to play, she's totally fine with me playing, and is supportive of me playing because she knows it's something I love to do. You're not always going to find a girl who will go play Paintball with you, and if she doesn't play no big deal. Like Mike said, if she doesn't want to play, don't make her, but don't put up with getting crap for doing something you love to do.
This post has been edited by erg993: 27 December 2012 - 12:29 PM
Posted 27 December 2012 - 01:45 PM
My youngest played her first time a few events ago with one of her friends, and she had fun. But, when she was done for the day, I stopped playing and took her home (not a big deal since my field is in my backyard...) But, you don't want to make someone new play longer than they want to! When they are ready to go, leave!
She said she wants to play this Saturday again, and her friend isn't even coming... So that is a good sign! Just don't force it on her, and let HER decide if she wants to play or not. I let her use a new 98 custom with an Apex 2 barrel. Which is a good starter gun. Here she is playing one game where I asked if they wanted to go to the other teams flag... As they stayed back and guarded the base for the first few games, until they were ready to go after the flag.
This post has been edited by FreeEnterprise: 27 December 2012 - 01:46 PM
Posted 27 December 2012 - 10:19 PM
Posted 28 December 2012 - 04:28 PM
doesn't bitch when you go play often because she likes to play as well
she is actually pretty badass and a valuable asset
everyone likes girls....mostly..
easy to shop for at Christmas time (mine just asked for paintball stuff)
doesn't complain when your entire wardrobe is comprised of paintball apparel because hers is too.
she lives with me so she is ALWAYS AROUND eliminating almost all my "me" time
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Posted 28 December 2012 - 10:53 PM
Posted 28 December 2012 - 10:54 PM
So I wasn't the only person that though this?!?!
Posted 29 December 2012 - 12:26 AM
Don't put any pressure on her, and maybe skip a few games to let her gather herself. Take it easy, make it fun and pay lots of attention to her. She will love you for it.
Posted 29 December 2012 - 12:45 AM
Posted 29 December 2012 - 02:13 AM