[Woodyballer29]

I have douche friends. Sure let's all hang out and play cod then go to youth group, but let's not invite Dave. Yeah let's all go skiing, but not invite Dave. How about we have a new years eve party but not invite Dave. Welcome to my life. Seriously it's not funny guys. I have lived here my whole life, yet I seem to not really be close friends with anybody here. Meanwhile, at my cousins house, when I'm with his friends it's like I've known them forever. Only when I spoke up about it did it change, and even then it hasn't changed much. It was happening before this group of girls came to our youth group. I could understand it before, they had known each other for a very long time and so had I, but was it the age difference, was it that I didn't act the same way they did? But since these group of girls came to our youth group, well I was put back even further on the back burner, so I spoke up about it. I said what I needed to say but they denied doing it, it's been better since, but only by a tiny bit. It still happens, like I said earlier they invite everybody but me. It's frustrating, depressing, aggravating, and saddening. All I want to be is close with these guys, yet it seems like every minute I'm drifting farther apart. What makes me even madder is that they talk about doing stuff in my face but don't invite me. And I'm the kind of guy that doesn't invite myself too things so it's worse. "And I wished you well as you cut me down." - Holland Road by Mumford and Sons

There will probably be more coming. But you know what friends....




Just needed to get it off my chest.

This post has been edited by Woodyballer29: 08 December 2012 - 10:37 AM

[canscom]

As shitty asit sounds get new friends

[Woodyballer29]

canscom, on 07 December 2012 - 01:28 PM, said:

As shitty asit sounds get new friends

Here's the thing I can't really get new friends, I'm stuck here.

[SOUP]

Just give them the tip.

[REDCOBRA]

do this at the next meeting...

[`kook]

I know how you feel man, I've been that guy also. The one people don't have a problem with, but the one who is also never sought out.

Best advice is to forget about those guys, do what makes you happy and try to meet new people who want you around.

[CPS]

SOUP, on 07 December 2012 - 02:33 PM, said:

Just give them the tip.

[Woodyballer29]

`kook, on 07 December 2012 - 03:42 PM, said:

I know how you feel man, I've been that guy also. The one people don't have a problem with, but the one who is also never sought out.

Best advice is to forget about those guys, do what makes you happy and try to meet new people who want you around.

Yeah I would for sure, but I can't I'm stuck with my friends that I have right now.

[PREDATOR 47]

I had the same problem. But for me it turned out that there was just one guy that didn't like me and everybody else would just go along with it when he suggested to leave me out. I tried not to get all pissed, believe me it was hard, and just kinda act like it didn't bother me. Eventually this kid rubbed my friends the wrong way, and I took it upon myself to get rid of him. Everything was fine for a while until eventually I found new friends and left my old ones. Now I'm out of high school, and I don't even see those guys very much anymore.

What I'm trying to say is you're going to outgrow friends sometimes, and while it seems difficult, you gotta put yourself out there to make new ones. Sometimes you can work it out, but sometimes you just gotta move on. If you're unhappy, you have every right to go be happy, and don't let some douche friends get in the way of that.

[kingJurzy]

CPS, on 07 December 2012 - 03:49 PM, said:

SOUP, on 07 December 2012 - 02:33 PM, said:

Just give them the tip.

[`kook]

Woodyballer29, on 07 December 2012 - 03:58 PM, said:

`kook, on 07 December 2012 - 03:42 PM, said:

I know how you feel man, I've been that guy also. The one people don't have a problem with, but the one who is also never sought out.

Best advice is to forget about those guys, do what makes you happy and try to meet new people who want you around.

Yeah I would for sure, but I can't I'm stuck with my friends that I have right now.

How do you mean stuck? Can't you just not hang out with them anymore?

imo, moving on from people is a much easier process than being slowly cut out.

[tallsmallboy44]

Shit on your friends.

[XxJellyFilledxX]

SOUP, on 07 December 2012 - 02:33 PM, said:

Just give them the tip.

tallsmallboy44, on 07 December 2012 - 09:47 PM, said:

Shit on your friends.

This post has been edited by XxJellyFilledxX: 07 December 2012 - 09:54 PM

[bigx]

I that guy love me or hate me I dont give a fuck. Just do whatever makes you happy. Might I reccomend seducing a female member of your youth group and winning in that way?

[Woodyballer29]

`kook, on 07 December 2012 - 07:37 PM, said:

Woodyballer29, on 07 December 2012 - 03:58 PM, said:

`kook, on 07 December 2012 - 03:42 PM, said:

I know how you feel man, I've been that guy also. The one people don't have a problem with, but the one who is also never sought out.

Best advice is to forget about those guys, do what makes you happy and try to meet new people who want you around.

Yeah I would for sure, but I can't I'm stuck with my friends that I have right now.

How do you mean stuck? Can't you just not hang out with them anymore?

imo, moving on from people is a much easier process than being slowly cut out.

I could but then I don't have any other friends to hang out with.

[Woodyballer29]

I am actually quite surprised right now. After youth group I kind of invited myself over to play cod since they were going to play Zombies. I just wanted to see what the zombies and stuff looked like on Blops 2. I guess they don't like it when I play zombies because I have my own strategy that only really works if everybody will do it. But they have their strategy as well so I was doing mine and they were doing theirs, well I had to keep going over to where they were to revive them. Well at the beginning some of them were being douches. The funny thing is that I actually had to revive them multiple times and then they weren't talking then lol. The next game we played a new map and I was telling them about all of the stuff on the map and that's when one of my friends said, "I don't like playing with Dave." Which I found kind of hurtful because I was helping them out a crap ton. Anyways I was getting a ride home with one of them (he's not a douche) and I guess I was being really quiet or something so he asked me if everything was all right. And I said yeah everything's fine and that I was thinking. He asked me if he had done anything wrong and I said no and he asked me a few more questions if I was alright and stuff. We kind of got talking about girls a bit which I found odd because nobody talks to me about girls besides my cousin. And he said that they might be going down to Tennessee to a church because we know a guy in our church who could hook them up with a bunch of girls in his wife's church. Which I thought was really odd because normally I wouldn't even hear about something like a trip like that. When he dropped me off at home he said that if I needed anything to just give him a shout and he hoped I wasn't thinking of anything too serious. I dunno it was a weird night, and I cried myself to sleep.

[`kook]

Only advice I have to give to that is to cut your losses.

[SWOballer]

All it really takes is one friend that is in your corner to help you get out of this situation. It sounds from your last post that this particular friend does care about your feelings so I would work with that and maybe you both can meet new people and ditch the so called "douche friends". And go meet some new girls, guys are just dick heads at your age anyways.

[Woodyballer29]

SWOballer, on 08 December 2012 - 10:24 PM, said:

All it really takes is one friend that is in your corner to help you get out of this situation. It sounds from your last post that this particular friend does care about your feelings so I would work with that and maybe you both can meet new people and ditch the so called "douche friends". And go meet some new girls, guys are just dick heads at your age anyways.

Haha thanks for understanding! Yeah he seems to care about my feelings which is very nice, at the same token he is the nicest person to everybody lol. He is best friends with all of my "douche friends" so I don't think he would ditch them. They only seem to be douches to me though, like I'm inferior, but they aren't douchey to each other. Even like the tone of their voices maybe half of the time, it's like I'm an annoyance to them. But I can tell I'm not but the way they talk and the tone say that I am. But I can tell that I'm not. It's weird I don't know how to explain it lol. The trip to Tennessee would be him, and 2 of my other douchey friends probably.

[SWOballer]

Guys like that who seem to be nice to everyone are typically only nice to the douche bags because it's in their nature. As long as there is one person that wants you along for the journey then I say fuck the rest of them. Go on the trip and be the one that is the highlight with the new people you meet and show them why you should be part of the pack so to speak.